The Players Handbook [Update 1]

6. Met his friends yet?
Haven't met his friends after six months? How bad. One obvious sign is he keeps saying "Next week" and then next week, he goes "next week". He DEFINITELY has another girlfriend his friends already know about. You're just his bit on the side- however much he's telling you he "loves" you.

7. Secret phone calls:
Players are of course going to have more then one girl calling them, sometimes you may be out on a date, or sitting one night watching a movie and his phone goes off, he immediately looks at it and then presses ignore. When you ask who it was he replies "Oh nobody, just some friends" and then will change the subject by cuddling closer, or kissing you. Sometimes you may also be in the middle of a phone conversation and his other line will go off, he tells you hold on a minute and answers the other line, when he comes back he tells you "Sorry, just some friends trying to get a hold of me" and then continues on with the conversation you were having. If this becomes constant and you never get an idea of who is calling him, it's probably more then likely another girl.

8. Always Gotta Keep It Hush Hush:
Players always have some sort of excuse as to why you can't tell others you are dating each other. Everything about you relationship is always Hush Hush. The player will always have that one excuse as to why nobody can know you and him are seeing each other. The whole relationship is one big SECRET.

9.Relationship? Guilt Trip:
A player will always be about an unspoken bond or something special, but never about a relationship. He always wants YOU to feel special, like you're the one for him.The whole dating thing was your idea that way in the end you feel guilty that he cheated on you. Makes you feel like you did something wrong. Everything in the arrangement is about you. Never about him its all part of his guilt trip he cheated plan.

There is several different types of players, but they all have the essential characteristics listed above.
Type 1"dorky best friend didn't see him coming from a mile away":
This is the most rare and hardest to spot player and undeniably the most effective. He is sensitive, caring, supportive, and usually comes across as not very put together....a bit dorkyish and boyish. Of course he's hot, but acts as if he is the furtherest thing from it. He will see the chick-flick you've talked about for months and keeps his eyes on you when a dropped dead gorgeous model type passes by. But thats just the very core of his game. He gains your trust, love, and 99.9 % of the time full and complete access to your bed. He will even more than likely make you think that you made the first move. And because you are their "best friend" they have a "special" ring tone for your phone number, usually your favorite song!!

Type 2"OMG he really did exist i was beginning to think i imagined him":
He is the sort that blows in like a whirlwind and never sticks around for very long. There's always a long drawn out explaination and he is so amazing in bed that you immediately forgive him and forget why it was that you were mad at him in the first place. There will always be a promise that this will be the last time he leaves but by next week he will have yet again disappeared.

Type 3"okay obviously he's a player but good gawd LOOK AT HIM":
Okay we've all known this type and more than likely we've all hooked up with them, just once. They are too hard to resist. We tell ourselves no one will ever find out and justify it "rationally" once we've seen them shirtless. He knows he's hot, beyond gifted in bed, and doesn't even know the definition of the word commitment and admittedly, we don't care. Reference the song Dirty Little Secrets by All-American Rejects.